Who even am i?

Now that, my friend, is a good question and one I have been asking myself since I became a mum. I am an autistic, ADHD mum of three (all of whom I suspect are also neurodiverse), and am starting this blog because I’ve been staring into the abyss for far too long and want to show others in my position that you’re not alone. I’ll talk about everything from shit I wish I knew before kids and the ups and downs of parenthood to the unexpected impacts of kids on my life, relationship, and mental health.

My Background

I’m terrible at small talk so lets just jump in. I grew up in an emotionally abusive household but only realized it once I had children of my own. Fucked up, right. How did I come to this realization you might ask? I’ll get to that. For now, just know in my years of my being a parent, I have done more self reflection, learning, and healing than I ever thought I needed; all of which has led me to gentle parenting (authoritative, mindful, whatever you wanna call it). My healing journey has also had a very unexpected effect on my relationship with my partner; it has caused a lot of tension. So that’s fun..

While I won’t claim to be an expert at anything, I want this blog to show the true realities of being a parent who struggles with mental health. Because boy do I struggle. I’ve be clinically depressed for (I now realize) probably half of my life and it all came crashing down on me when my husband and I decided to move our family from my home country of Canada to his home town in England. Now that I’ve managed to claw my way back from the edge, I want to try and help anyone who might be remotely close to where I was. I’m not going to bog this page down too much, so for all the nitty gritty, head to the blog and explore.